REACHING OUT TO MAKE AMENDS

On Monday of this week I put out a Facebook post regarding the Robin Thicke and Miley Cyrus awards show spectacle. As a result, some people took offense to poor word choices I made, which I never intended be taken in that manner.

Here I want to express that I’m sorry to all who were offended. My intention was not to cause any offense, pain, suffering or discomfort for anyone. Those who truly know the person I am know the content of my character and what’s truly in my heart.  I explained in the post when asked, that my statement was meant to be taken figuratively, not literally as some folks took it. It’s an expression that’s very common in urban settings.

As an indirect result, it was also that day that The Indiana Horror Writers (IHW) disbanded. I have been a member of this organization for nearly two years and have developed some very close and rewarding relationships as a result. These people became family to me and I love them dearly. We have fought, laughed and cried together. I became teary eyed when news of the disbanding occurred. I felt as though a part of me had died.

Some of the offended parties have publicly expressed their feelings on my words and me in general. Seeing this was very difficult on a personal level. Having your name dragged through the mud and having opinions attributed to you that you do not share in any way is hurtful to endure.

However, as difficult as it has been to witness, I have been largely silent. I haven’t personally engaged those who I offended in one way or the other. It has come to my attention that an unnamed supporter—someone whose identity I’m truthfully unaware of—has attempted to defend me and while I’m appreciative of the efforts, I don’t condone this type of behavior. To those who truly know my character and want to help, please don’t do so by posting angry, inflammatory internet rants. This does nothing to help the situation and only further alienates the parties involved.

To those I offended, I offer an olive branch and show of good faith. Anyone who would like to have an open and positive dialogue with me is welcome to do so and I’m open to it. I’m willing to listen, I’m willing to say I’m sorry and I’m willing to move on. We all make mistakes in our lives, the main thing is how we respond and address them. All I ask is the opportunity to demonstrate my sincerity in regards to making amends for this deeply regrettable situation.

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4 responses to “REACHING OUT TO MAKE AMENDS

  1. John, anyone who converses with you, for even a moment, can tell what kind of man you are: one made exceedingly better than the overwhelming majority. Keep the faith, brother, as it will continue to keep you.

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